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Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Housewife Reflections

The hubs and I were having a conversation the other day, and he mentioned that my blog has gotten increasingly negative over the past few months.
"There's all this swearing....it's fuck this, and suck-it that..." he said.

I couldn't help but giggle at first, because anyone who blogs themselves knows that these little blog babies of ours are specifically for shit like that - complaining, moaning and groaning and general ranting, and in my case, swearing. I never swear in real life. Well, hardly ever. I don't want my kids hearing it, and plus, I come up with other words to replace the naughty ones. But god knows I love me some good swear words. So I swear it up here and, that way, when my significant other comes around, I can put on the happy face and get on with life - with a clean mouth.

Makes sense, right?

But then I got to thinkin....


Maybe my blog is too bitchy. Mostly I hate people who perpetually complain. It drives me nuts when a person sits on their ass and bitches, and doesn't DO anything about their problem. I would hate for others to see me like that.


However, I did just move to a strange city, not knowing a soul, and am trying to jump in with both feet and start my life over...again. The hubs and I have done this twice before - once to San Diego and once to Vegas. So I'm not a rookie....but I'm not exactly "good" at doing this move thing, either.


It's a tough balance. But while I'm trying to figure out my new life here in Philly, in my quiet moments I often reflect on how lucky I am, and how this time has given me the opportunity to slow the fuck down and learn to just enjoy my life and my kids. It's been amazing to just "be a mom" and not worry about how I'm going to find the time to get everything done, or what I'm going to wear to the next party....


I've spent the past eight weeks in mom sweats and ponytails - no events to attend, no friends to have over, nowhere to go. I've welcomed my boy home from school every day ready to help him with his homework and bake cookies together. That's time I'll never get back, and I'm so grateful that I've been able to do that with him. I've spent loads of afternoons with my daughter, teaching her new songs and snuggling an extra few minutes when she wants it. I'm not the type of mom that could do this for the rest of my mom career - I'd go totally insane being home 24/7 - but for now, I'm trying to appreciate that I have the time, and the patience, and the energy to enjoy it while it's here.


So, even though I'm not exactly "happy" right now, I'm not sad, either. Figuring out my new path isn't easy. It's going to take lots of mental processing, time and patience, but most of all emotional courage....or as I like to call it...balls. I'm going to need some big balls to get through this. Luckily I've got some stashed away for times like these.


My apologies if I've been too bitchy. I certainly didn't mean to come across as The Negative Housewife (just call me Debbie Downer? Wah! Wah! Wahhhh!). To cheer up the place a bit, here are some of my favorite pictures from the past couple of weeks.





Shoo-Fly Pie, anyone?


One of the many storms to hit Philly this season...


Butterfly Face



14 comments:

Nicole said...

LOL Jack look hilarious with his face painted! Something about how his lip is painted makes him look like a grinch spider man!!!!!

Very cute though, where did you guys go??

I wish I could come see you sooner. give you some company....

NucMEd is Hot said...

You've read my blog...you know how we feel about the f-bomb...it's sacred.

Moving stinks and you aren't Debbie Downer. I think you are terribly funny and very brave for moving again and starting over. Tell your husband to have a drink and chill the fuck out...you'll rebound!

Gretchen said...

I never thought you were negative or too bitchy. I love your stuff, just be you! You have lots of adjustments to make and it's fun to "go through" them with you.

Mandeek said...

I understand what you mean. I have come down with a case of "cabin fever" myself. It is hard for me to even get out of the house to go grocery shopping, b/c I have to drag my newborn everywhere I go, b/c she nurses so much. It is so cold, I really don't even want to think of going out, but I don't like staying in, either. Hang in there, I have high hopes that spring will be here soon. Maybe the 1st of March. :) Fingers Crossed for both of us, for if the weather does not change soon, I may just have to bash my head into a wall!

Mrs. Jeremy said...

You could never be a downer!!!!

dirtyduck said...

i keep my balls stashed away also, you never know when you need a pair


nice blog,ill be back

Valerie said...

I love your blog and certainly do not think you are negative!!

Katie said...

You are so NOT a downer!! I look forward to reading your blog while I'm in my sweats, doing the Mom thing too. You're not negative, you're funny!! Wish we could sit at home together, with all our kids and make cookies. xoxo

dirtyduck said...

i just threw out a suck it sunday at my blog cupecake stomper

Matt said...

Verdict is in. Hubs is an idoit

Matt said...

see, i meant idiot

Vegas Linda Lou said...

No, you're not too bitchy. On the contrary, there's something endearing about a good old rant. Don't hold back--you have lots of company!

Harvard Housewife said...

don't you worry chica. We ALL have our moments. You are who you are...btw here I was thinking I was all original with my conversations with hubby posts, then I realized I probably subconsciously stole that from you after reading your blog. just read convo with ava. oops.

Closer to Lucy said...

Having done the cross country relocate myself I would say that those fbombs are more than earned!

Relocation sucks and brings out the bitchy in the most seasoned movers. I doubt it ever gets easy.

My husband wishes my blog was my venting outlet. Cause I save the best lines for him!

I love your ranting,LOL it reminds me that I'm not alone!

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